There may be agencies, groups, advisers, family members, and friends that you can turn to, even if it is just someone to inform of your feelings. There are many, many gay people in all sorts of communities, and there are many people there for you when you need support. Everyone has their battles and choices to make, and the norms of societies may not necessarily be normal for you. If you feel that you indeed made a choice, you should feel comfortable with that choice. Some people in the world believe that sexual orientation is a choice.Licensed Clinical Social Worker Expert Interview. X Expert Source Deb Schneider, LCSW, PPSC Neither is there anything wrong with you for being gay. There isn't any need to change yourself - being gay is just another way of simply existing, and there is nothing wrong with it at all.It is something that is simply a part of your being, and not something you can change. Try to encourage others to see your sexual orientation in the same way as they see your eye color - it is something you were born with and did not choose. When talking with heterosexual friends or family members, it's sometimes tough to help them understand this, because they have no frame of reference for your experience. Attempts to change your orientation are usually painful and pointless in the end. Remember that you didn't choose to be attracted to members of the same sex.